My Wish for You
My hope is to provide relief from the confusion and emotional suffering that emotionally immature parents arouse in their children. If this book helps you understand your emotional loneliness or helps you create deeper emotional connections and more rewarding intimacy in your life, then I will have accomplished my mission. If it helps you see yourself as a worthy person who is no longer at the mercy of other people’s manipulations, I will have done my job. I know you’ve suspected much of what you are about to read, and I’m here to tell you that you were right all along.
Adult Children of
Emotionally Immature Parents
Are you one of the countless people who grew up with emotionally immature parents? If your parent's needs came first, you may still recall painful moments of childhood emotional neglect, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of maturity in an effort to compensate for your parents’ behavior. And although you likely cultivated strengths such as self-reliance and independence along the way—strengths that have served you well as an adult—having to be the emotionally mature person in your relationship with your parent is confusing and exhausting.
Emotionally immature parents take a toll on their children. Emotional loneliness is often the result of having parents who were so wrapped up in their own issues they neglected your needs for connection and attention, and even expected you to make them feel better.
You can free yourself from the depleting role of catering to the needs of the emotionally immature. Once you understand how these immature people function, you will no longer feel guilty or ashamed for not helping them more. You will learn how to reconnect with your true self while interacting with others in ways that keep you from being emotionally drained.
This book has been an Amazon bestseller and has been translated into thirteen languages.
In this how-to sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, you will find powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself from the pressures of emotionally immature people (EIPs). You will learn how to recognize their emotional takeovers, make sure your emotions and needs are taken into account, and break free from chronic guilt, shame, self-doubt, and fear.
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling emotionally lonely and full of self-doubt. As an adult, it may be hard in relationships to claim your emotional autonomy, which is your basic freedom to have your own thoughts and feelings. You may have trouble setting limits, expressing your feelings, and establishing emotionally rewarding adult relationships. Even after you become an adult, EI parents may still mock your ideas and emotions, discount your reality, disallow your emotional autonomy, and shame you for setting boundaries. In short, EI parents - and EI people (EIPs) in general - can be self-absorbed, disrespectful, and dismissive of your right to have your own life. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?
Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Dr. Gibson now goes deeper into the ways EIPs try to dictate your thoughts and emotions while making you feel bad for resisting them. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the coercive behaviors not just of an EI parent but any EIP. You'll learn how to protect yourself against their emotional takeovers, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and feel the security of new emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips for what to say and do. You will be shown how to reclaim your mental and emotional freedom, and how to build a new self-concept based on your adult qualities and increased self-awareness.
If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.
Who You Were Meant To Be
You have a unique, trustworthy true Self inside that guides your growth with its still, small voice. This is your deepest nature, and it can guide you toward who you were meant to be. When you follow its urgings toward increased energy, you will find more joy in your experiences and relationships.
Finding and fulfilling our purpose in life it is an instinct we all share. Yet many of us instead are living the lives expected of us by our family, friends and society. Misplaced guilt and loyalty can tell us we have no right to our own dreams, and inner doubts can make us fearful of trying for a better future.
By understanding the fears, frustrations and loyalties that sabotage your dreams and personal growth, you can free yourself from the doubt and shame that hold you back. In Who You Were Meant to Be, Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson provides a practical road map out of old habits, shows you how to defuse anxieties, and reconnects you with your core energies as you identify and overcome these tricky sources of self-defeat. In this seminal book, you will find out how to discover your true purpose in life and become the person you have always wanted to be.
This is the updated, second-edition version that came out May, 2020.