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Getting the Word Out on Emotional Immaturity

8/26/2019

One of the most enjoyable and popular ways to get the word out on any topic is through podcasts. I listen to them daily on the drive to and from work, and enjoy the bonus learning time in what otherwise could be a humdrum commute. One of my favorite self-help and psychoeducational podcasts is Amee Quiriconi's One Broken Mom, with her blend of down to earth and deeply insightful interviews with thought leaders in the field of difficult relationships and the aftereffects of trauma.

My podcast interview with Amee was recently posted, and you can listen to it at:
https://www.ameequiriconi.com/post/how-to-handle-emotionally-immature-people-with-dr-lindsay-gibson

9 Comments

Russell Anderson

9/6/2019 10:56:45 am

I have recently separated from my wife of many years. Over the last three years she has read your book along with The Unavailable Father, The Emotionally Absent Mother and 20 others.

The concern with I have with is that a majority of cluster B mental health disorders are the production of childhood issues which you describe. You totally ignore this and never mention this as a possibility.

What would be the result if someone with BPD where to read your book. I think it would reinforce the externalization of their feelings, to put the blame on others and not take responsibility. This could lead many to not seek a diagnosis and not get the treatment they need.

Angela Davis

6/3/2020 12:31:58 pm

I can see where that would happen. For example, reading things in the bill of rights- such as "I have the right not to fix your problems" could be construed by an immature personality as "I have the right to dismiss you to avoid responsibility." My wonder is where so much of the book talks about emotional takeovers, but the emotionally immature people in my life controlled through abandonment and absence. And, since I have booted out my narcissistic father, I am reading the book as applied to the men I choose to re-enact my trauma (not consciously, of course!)

Kathy Putnam

3/2/2020 04:02:46 pm

I just purchased your two books (one was the workbook) on Adult Children of EI Parents & was wondering if there were therapists you could recommend in my corner of VA? I live in Covington, VA and would be willing to travel to Lexington, Roanoke, even Blacksburg or Harrisonburg, to receive therapy from someone who was familiar with your work. Both my parents were EI, both my sisters are EI parents and I narrowly escaped being unaware of being EI until I stopped drinking in my late 20’s and attended AA. AA is great at getting you to look at your character defects and personal responsibility, so I feel I’ve got “a leg up”, but I still have a long ways to go to heal, etc. I would be very appreciative if you could recommend someone near me and their contact info. Thank you so much for all you do to help people!

Kati Hime

8/9/2020 10:40:55 am

My husband and I devoured your book! It was amazing to have someone define what we had independently arrived upon recently. It was also refreshing to have someone define who we are (internalizers), and to understand why we were always going back ( "stupidly") for more, why our siblings are so different, why our parents were angry at our efforts to understand them and us, and why they turned people against us. "Triangulating" will now be a regular term! It was like discovering there are other beings that look like you in a world of different beings. You know? And to have our parents ' types defined, it was like you were writing about them ... Our mothers are both emotional category but in different ways, my husband's father passive and my father rejecting. Just was absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for this book!

Josh

9/4/2020 01:03:55 pm

Thank you so much for this amazing book! I hope this adds loads of value in my life. I remember I read one blog on DatingsApp.com and it was that moment when I was so much intrigued by this field that today I ended up buying this book. :)

Pascale Giudicelli

9/6/2021 06:41:02 am

I work at Hampstead Theatre in London where we are about to put on Marsha Norman's 'nigh Mother starring Stockard Channing.
Might you be interested in a commission to write a 1500 word article for our playbill on the subject of co-dependent emotionally immature parents? We would love you to accept as your expertise in the field singles you out as the ideal writer for it.
I apologise for contacting you through this medium but I couldn't find a more private email address.
I look forward to your reply. thank you

Amy E Long

1/15/2022 04:51:15 pm

A friend just gave me your book on EI parents. It was the missing piece of the puzzle.

My mom just died. I believe she had multiple personality disorder. 2 of her alters were reasonably healthy and the rest were not. My dad fits most of the checklists for 3 of the types. I have to wonder if there isn't a 5th type. My parents hit most of the things on the list, but don't quite fit the mold.

At any rate, all my other tools couldn't answer some important questions and then I read the same things in your book.

It can be hard to own your truth when being continually told otherwise. I am now free. Thank you!

Lauren

5/16/2022 08:16:38 am

Dear Lindsay, Like so many others, this book was a revelation to me. I don't quite fit in AlAnon or Adult Children of Alcoholics because my parents weren't alcoholics. My issues are more from neglect than outward abuse so it's hard to relate to the ACoA red book. Are there any online groups that meet around AC EIP issues? I have a great therapist but I long for a peer group of people supporting each other through this process (like I've experienced in 35 years in AA).

Kerry

9/13/2022 01:16:08 pm

I am interested in developing a curriculum for youth who have the characteristics of emotional immaturity. Is this even possible? Could we teach youth the awareness so they don't become emotionally immature adults?

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